Hi SuzyQ, just when you thought you couldn't get any more conflicting advice....
My advice would be to go for a striking art first, so that you can strike effectivly without damaging yourself.
Whilst continuing with a striking art look into a concept called The Shredder. ( http://www.senshido.com/
The Shredder is a concept that can be incorporated into any style and is fantastic, especially for women.
The Shredder Package (Vid or DVD) is well worth the money, I promise.
[This message has been edited by Gaffer (edited 11-23-2004).]