Probably I am suffering from culture clash. After ten years of playing "Follow the Leader", which is the way Aikido is taught in our dojo, I was informed that I was expected to "steal" the techniques. Okay Now I am to become a thief, as well. How do I know if what I am stealing is the correct version, the whole version, or a version at all? I am a lousy thief.

What kind of culture has thievery so deeply ingrained that it is considered normal?

I have discovered a second Aikido dojo in town. Advertising is by word of mouth. I have actually learned more there in two months than in the last ten years "following the leader".