Ahh middle school, good and bad memories in that mix. Thank you for sharing your story, it must have taken quite a bit of courage to tell, I think.

I usually ignore people who bug me, I'm to lazy to lay the smackdown on them.

I wouldn't worry too much about what you did, but remember that two wrongs don't make a right. Don't hold grudges, it could be that much of what you think is happening actually isn't. You'll probably find out later that what happens in school is rather silly and juvenile but that will come with time.

EVERYONE has doubts and insecurities. You are not alone. Those people who make fun of you probably do it because they are either insecure themselves or afraid of you (in a good way).

Also you needn't be uncomfortable about who you are. You should be proud of your achievements and always remember your better points. (Bear in mind and try to improve your worse points too). Also, I know it's hard, but don't pay too much attention to what other people say about you. Other people don't really know you and they usually don't have a clue who you really are. If they do say something you think might be true, well do your best to make it better.

If you are overweight might I suggest two things. Firstly, a well balanced food intake, refer to the food pyramid for this:


Secondly, regular cardiovascular/aerobic exercise. This means jogging, running, swimming, cycling and other sports which raise your heart rate (not necessarily MA). This should be done for 1 1/2 to 2 hours, 3 days weekly. Vary your routine so you don't get bored with it. Consult your doctor before embarking on an exercise routine to lose weight.

Also a hint from someone who's been there: keep a diary. Write down everything you eat every day. Read it at the end of the day every day. Also write down exercises you do and your weight and measurements (particularly waist). For some reason, reading just how much you eat is a very good incentive to eat less.

Find out what your healthy body mass index(BMI) is from your doctor. When you reach a healthy BMI do not try to lose any more weight this is very unhealthy. Keep exercising regularly and eating healthily but not quite as rigerously as previously.

DO NOT DIET, exercise and healthy eating is the way to go, those diets are really just marketing ploys to make money from people's gullability. If you want to lose weight, there's no shortcuts, it takes hard work.

As to your looks, well being male I don't know too much about it but I'll tell you one thing. A frown can ruin a beautiful face and a smile can make one.

When you are happy with who you are and comfortable with yourself, people will naturally come to like you. It worked for me, I went from being a nobody who everybody didn't want to know to being the most talked about and well known person in my school. All because I stopped caring what other people thought about me and started caring about who I really wanted to be.

Edit: I realise on a second reading of your post that you've probably already moved past these issues, but many people don't know much about them. Particularly the importance of healthy eating and exercise. You'd be surprised at the number of people who can't even tell you the healthy eating pyramid off the top of their head or what aerobic exercise is and how it differs from anaerobic exercise. I'm no expert but I know about it and it's helped me lose and keep off my weight.

Edited by Leo_E_49 (10/20/05 09:04 PM)
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