i know that if i prove he is not the big guy he thinks he is it will stop.
Are you absolutely sure? What if it doesn't? What if he comes back with friends or a gun? I know you did not come here for confrontation management information but the world is not as simple as it used to be.
i sure as heck dont want to kill the kid.
Me neither but a fight is a fight. People get hurt, sometimes seriously. It is a risk that you accept when you willingly decide to enter into the scenario.
By all means, learn to protect yourself and your loved ones. Consider however, that once you consent to violence in order to prove something, there is no going back.
[This message has been edited by Fletch1 (edited 11-26-2004).]