The philosophy is basic, eliminate the biggest threat and then they could toy with the rest of you. Once the biggest and toughest guy from the group has been imobilized the lions can tear the beast apart. Next time you need to take a more agressive stance mentally and physically. If the threat is real and active you must respond right away without discussion and "street foreplay". There is no secret that we can teach you from a computer, it's up to you to get that type of MA training yourself. You should read more about "Bushido" Philosophy too. It's time to tough'n up!