It has been a while since I have last visited this site. Work, life, and MA practice have kept me very busy. So far I have been having a lot of fun with MA practice…there are just not enough hours in my week to practice as much as my schedule will allow.
I am posting this in the instruction and business section because I need perspective from those who run their own MA business.
In a nutshell, the head instructor/owner of the school that I attend asked me for money.
This is not related to my contract –I paid that off months ago. Without going in to too much detail it is a personal matter…he is going home (Asia) to pay a final visit to a family member who is terminally ill.
I can’t imagine what it must have taken for him to put himself out there and ask for help. If I would have had a little notice I could have pulled together double the amount of what he asked me. I have no problem giving actual cash, but I was a little taken aback when he asked for my credit card number. I was shocked, taken off-guard, and a little spooked. Financially, this month has not been the best. My pet’s cancer has returned as well as the expense associated with it. As mentioned, I paid off my year contract long ago and have been adding monetary “gifts” to the school when I can.
If I had this discussion with any of my close friends I know they would tell me to get the hell out of there ASAP. Not knowing much about Asian culture I am not sure that my instructor knew how odd that it was to ask such a question. It was merely a request for help in my opinion, but my eyebrows are still raised about the credit card issue. I have never (and never will) let anyone have access to my personal financial information. That is just common sense, good judgment, and a general cultural standard where I come from. I found myself driving home tonight just shaking my head with a wide-eyed blank stare. I am fond of my instructor, he is like family. Imagine your grandfather needing help…that is how I feel. Warm feelings aside, I wouldn’t even let my grandfather have access to my credit card. I suppose that makes me a bad person. I wonder how offensive my behavior would be considered in Asian culture? I will see what cash I can pull together to do what I can, but my god that was just something I was not prepared to hear.
I would still like to attend there as I feel the instruction is superior to anything in the area, but this is a very awkward situation. Given the cultural differences, I am not sure if I should be offended or sympathetic? How would you handle a situation like this?
I make it my ambition to live a peaceful life.