How do you do all this and be 'formless' or 'shapeless' and live with no inhibitions or obstructions to your 'flow' in life?

Greene king IPA.

Be relaxed, calm and think things through. Be it MA, work, driving or partying. When is enough enough?

When I talk to new people, I smile, I make them smile and treat them as if I've known them for years. Although it may be a mask it works.

In sparring, I treat the dangers as natural. I'm relaxed and take things as they come. I don't plan 100 steps. If I see an opening, I take it and hopefully I'll win.

I date a girl. I treat her like a friend. I'm relaxed and don't really care if I impress her or not (except one girl I'm crazy about). I ask her number, she says "why don't you give me yours", I just smile and say "nevermind then" and walk away. She'll give you the phone number if she's interested.

How do I do it? Just be relaxed and take as things come. No need to plan it all out. I flow with the "life-stream", and usually let the stream take me where it wants.

But! It doesn't mean I'm greedy or ambitious. Nope, I'm greedy like an ogre. The 5c! Car, Condo, Cash, Capital, Career.

Be like water my friend, and let things happen as they happen, no need to direct your course.

-Taison out (drowning in the life stream)

I agree with Taison. Just relax. Emotions can be blinding.
Regarding the being fake when meeting people, use this in all areas at first. In other words fake it until it comes naturally. If you pretend to yourself that you don't care, then after a while you really learn not to.

Hmm, interesting. I guess maybe part of my problem I think is that I don't know who I really 'Am' I mean I have put on so many false persona's that now trying to find my own identity is an issue. I mean how do you do THAT?

By growing up.
so genrally after puberty.

Good point.

Who are you?

No idea. You have to find that out yourself.

Who am I?

I am one of many personas. On the forum, I'm the Kid Taison. Goofy, aloof, or downright retarded sometimes.

At work or university, I'm the social Taison who helps everyone.

At the dojo, I'm known only as "that sadistic freak" (I love making people squirm, it's fun).

At home, I'm the loner who loves listening to heavy metal.

Be yourself. That's what you should strive for. Be who you are at that moment. Even if it's a complete lie, if you are who you think you are, you are.

I don't encourage lying, but because I don't lie, many think I do lie of who I am. So what's the point in not lying when they don't believe me anyways? But in all seriousness, I don't lie. I am who I am and people don't believe me because I'm just that great being who have found a purpose in life and they're just jealous I'm able to accomplish what they'll only dream off.

Storm, be who you are and don't care what other think you are. Let the moment carry you and adapt to that moment, and be who you are at that moment.

I understand your mood swings. Unlike you, I'm very very emo. So emo infact, if you went up to me and starting joking about my beer belly, you might end up unconscious on the floor. Now, who has a worse mood swing? Count to 10, and think of green grass, blue sky, yellow flower. That should help with your mood swings, and dont reflect on stuff too much at night. Get your sleep and be one with the moment.

Storm, if you need help, I'm here. Although I might be the opposite of a psychatrist (a psychopath), I understand your situation most of the time.

-Taison out

You know I think I might jsut analyse a little too much and need to stop forcing issues and let it all come on it's own. And thats true, I am young enough that I am still developing and so it's almost impossible to try and pin anything down.
Taison- We shall become very good friends...muahahahahahaha...yeah I'm a bit psycho to.