Hi Vinnie,

I'm sorry to hear about your recent trouble and i'm glad you're ok, it's always easy to look back in hindsight and say to yourself i should've done this or that but during the heat of the moment it never works out that way, just make sure you learn from your mistakes and don't get caught out again, take care mate!

James.

Heh
I can't even count the number of tiimes i've avoided fights during the past 2 years even.
This distinct one i can remember though.
I was at a trainstation waiting for a friend to come. So anyway i see this extremely pretty girl walking by, and i couldn't help myself but stare at her, infact, i didn't even notice myself staring at her she was just too gorgeous to look away from. So then after she comes closer by it turned out her boyfriend and his friend were behind her. He had a [censored] for me looking at her so he was looking at me, i took a glimpse at him then looked away, to which he intentionally walked towards my way, he shoulder barged me and expected me to retaliate though i didn't, and he walked off.
I was still imaginging myself holding the girls hand :P (she would be better off with me than a hardass like himself sigh...)

she was pretty.. very pretty..

Attend a few reality seminars, good ones, not fake money makers.

Or just dont get into conflicts, but really conflict is unavoidable cause theres always someone who wont leave off.

God luck

dcm

You already know what you did wrong. Just be sure to listen to your logic rather than your ego when/if you get into that situation again.

Or that <directed at self

i have been a bouncer for the last 4 yrs in a pretty rough club, and i generally was able to talk most people down,it's really hard to explain unless you have alot of experience reading people, but theres a way to talk to them, kind of like your not really agreeing or disagreeing, you avoid being cofrontational while at the same time letting them know your not scared of them but hav no problem with them unless they force me to have a problem, also being a bouncer isnt so much about kicking butt, it's about being able to keep people safe and the establishment from being sued (another reason we were required to learn cpr) it's all about being able to negotiate, i would say about 80 or 90 percent of the time a situation can be defused, but there are just some (stupid ) people that want to fight regardless, and so you will always have to be a little paranoid and assume any individual is dangerous until proven otherwise, the best defense is to simply be elsewhere, also it is a good idea to tell the bouncers they will usually take care of the situation, they can even walk you to your car if need be. Theres no reason to get into a fight unless you Have to!

I agree with galen totaly if u make the decision to fight on the streets, be prepared to show the devoid of human desincy...i personnaly would break the opponents arms simply so as i walked away, he would be able to shoot me in the back.

hard truth, but survival of the fittest.

I guess you learned your lesson huh?

Thanks everyone for your advice and suggestions, I’ll take 'em on board and I agree with (most of) the views posted. I’m surprised at the number of responses (and viewings)

I’ve healed, only a small scar one my lip and only a couple of photos to remember my face by; although I don’t like to see them because they make me angry; so I don’t.
I’ve not seen him again, but when I go home (in the vacations from uni) I’m constantly checking everyone’s face just incase I recognize him, not even sure If I could as I was pretty drunk when the ‘incident’ happened.
At first I thought about what I’d do if I saw him again-kick the s**t out of him, then as time passsed I started to think more rationally. If I try to get him back, and I do, it might turn into a never ending vendetta or he could press charges or I could lose and then it’s back to square one. So I guess I’ll have to forgive him, learn from my mistakes and that way I can forget about it. Although don’t think I’ll be able to be civil towards him if I ever meet him again.

I now know what to expect if I do get into a fight and lose, so that’s a big factor in making me, in the future, avoid fighting situations wherever possible. That said if I do, and my opponent has obviously had enough, I’m not going to kick the [censored] out of him just because that’s what’s done on the ‘street’.

I still stand by the things I said in my first post. And yes I’ve most certainly learned something from it, so I guess the whole thing wasn’t all bad….