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#193999 - 10/14/05 04:36 AM crippling fear of opponents
robertdeniro Offline

Registered: 08/15/02
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don't know about anyone else,but I get so hamstrung by fear of potential adversaries that I feel it will hamper my fighting chances.I have studied a martial art for 10 years and am at black belt level.i have fought before in the street,though not since my martial arts training.I've had a go,but usually it has to be spontaneous and i worry like crazy afterwards about comebacks.I'm not hard and worry too much about my opponent.If I have a build up to some kind of fight,for example against an opponent who may have a score to settle with me when i bump into him,i would probably create all sorts of nightmare scenrios in my mind about what will happen etc.if the guy has a rep then i'll probably totally overblow his ability in my mind.anyone got any suggestions on how tomovercome this?

#194000 - 10/14/05 12:25 PM Re: crippling fear of opponents [Re: robertdeniro]
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Registered: 08/27/05
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Well first off, try to avoid getting into street fights.
Particularly since it might not always be a one on one situation. If a guy comes to fight you and his friends with him see him losing badly, they might decide to help him. Then you'll have more to worry about then just the one opponent's abilities and rep.

Do you still practice now? You said that you studied an art for 10 years, but do you do any training for it now?
If you are training, I would suggest maybe participating in some tournaments. Whether you like them or not, you do get to face an unknown opponent. Doing that enough might help lower the level of the fear you feel. Also, if you are training, you can take some solace in knowing that you are at least doing everything you can to improve. If you happen to get beat, it's not because you didn't try.

If you aren't training of course, I would say try to get back into it. Especially if your this worried about being attacked. Maybe it can help you calm your mind a bit and get you more confident in your own abilities.


#194001 - 10/14/05 07:06 PM Re: crippling fear of opponents [Re: Sorin]
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The above is sound advice imho. Don't get into street fights. Self defense is another issue, we don't have control over whether we are put in a self defense situation. If you are, focus on getting away and inform the police immediately.
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