I'm a female
and I'd say that women don't enter competitions so they can be taken easy on. If I won a competition because my opponent was going "aw, she's small/ a girl/ etc etc", I'd be annoyed because it wouldn't be in my eyes a proper win. I'd want both sides to try hard.
In my view, women enter to compete and do their best. So do men. How would you feel if somebody looked at you, and then took it easy on you because of who you were?
I bet you wouldn't like it, well, if it was me, I wouldn't like it. This is a place where you are supposed to hit, and the women who join, normally know what they are getting into.
Also, you could think of it as making sure women are more ready for the "real" world? I know the rules of competition are very different to getting attacked in the street/ in your home, but in real life, attackers don't take it easy. I entered my first competition to test my abilities, see how much I had learned, and get a taste or what it is like to actually be in a fight, even if the fight had rules and was much more fair than the street. Then after the fight, I knew what to brush up on and concentrate on improving, so I could improve my skills and if there was really no other way, I could fight better in a real attacker situation. If you fight a woman, you might learn a few things yourself.
There is a big difference between bullying and fighting fairly in a competition that the female has said "yes, I'll fight in this". Try your best
You might actually be surprised at how good and challenging some women are at fighting.
Hope I've got through what I was trying to say. More or less;
taking it easy on a women in competition = boring and disappointing for both of you, and not the best learning experience
Ooh, just a little note; where I have trained, we fight with both males and females, and swap regularly with who we are fighting with. Sometimes we even get put purposefully with a male as our partner, so we are not used to just fighting against our own gender. In that way, sometimes I am more likely to be fighting and sparing with a guy, than with a girl!