Can you be or have you ever been "Too Honest"?

That is one ugly chick Scottie. That will give me nightmares.

Scottie, Scottie, Scottie....I leave the blood stains on the carpet to serve as a reminder to him. When we are asked what the stains are, I glare at him and have him explain. LOL j/k.

It works in just about any situation. Say you are teaching a kid the side kick and they suck. What you really want to say is: "Geez Joey that was the absolute worst kick I've ever seen in my entire MA career. I thought Micheal's kicks were bad but yours take the cake!" What would be more tactful is: "Joey I like how your balance is coming along. Now what I want you to work on is bringing the knee more in front and keep the heel down while your kick is loaded up. Once you get that part down, the rest of the kick is easy." Honesty is wonderful and appreciated. The trick is to be tactful about your response.

Casey

Nicely put Casey.

Have you ever thought about a career in politics?

The issue of Total Honesty is dependent on the question. Consider:

"Here's a picture of my baby. Isn't he cute?"

"Does this look infected to you?"

"Do you know why I pulled you over?"

Some questions can't be answered at all.

"Do you think she's prettier than me?"

"Here's a picture of my baby. Isn't he cute?"
AWWWWW I love little baby cheeks!

"Does this look infected to you?"
It does look a little red around the edges. Have you put anything on it?

"Do you know why I pulled you over?"
You need directions to the Krispy Kream?

"Do you think she's prettier than me?"
Who? The only woman I see is you.

Casey

That's one my husband said to me. He's full of them. Another one? Shortly after having our daughter (I'm talking the day we got home from the hospital) I was changing clothes in the bedroom. My husband was in the room holding the baby and he looked at me. Feeling a little self conscious (as I'm still very flabby) I asked what he wanted. "I was totally unaware I married a goddess." Yeah he's great.

Casey

Last year I was working in a summer language school and I covered another teacher's class for one session. I did nothing particularly special but after the class I had a number ofstudents come and ask if they could move to my group instead. I said I didn't have a group at that level and they asked about me taking over the group... they said they felt the other techer's classes were boring and not challenging enough.

I said they should go to the office and speak with someone there.

However, I felt it was only fair to try to warn the other teacher and maybe give her the news that the students weren't happy.

I saw her in the office and said I had something to tell her... then realised the awkwardness of the situation. Eventually she just said, "Tell me!", so I did... including the 'boring' bit!

Ten minutes later i was informed I was taking over the class. A couple of days later I asked her advice about the group and she huffed, "well, it's you they like... and I'm not very happy with you!" She then off-loaded all her frustrations and accused me of lording it about how great my single class was etc, etc.

Next time I know to keep my mouth shut.

Another ELT piece of brutal honesty was with a 15 year old student. We were pracitsing conditionals (IF sentences). The students had to say something to there partners using either the first or second conditional and the partner had to say whether they thought it was a 'likely' future or 'unlikely'

Example: 1st conditional is for likely/possible futures "If I win the lottery I will buy a car". (speaker thinks it's possible.

"If I WON the lottery I WOULD buy a car" (speaker thinks it's unlikely)

Well, martina said something to her partner and I asked her to tell the class.

"My dad says if I pass my exam he will buy me a mobile phone". (first conditional)

In front of the whole class I laughed... "Martina, that should have been in second conditional!"

For some reason I don't think she liked me after that.

Butterflypalm, men do cry but women use it as a weapon! And I've told a couple that truth as well.

Tried it. . .

Backfired totally. The lass thought I was a wuss. .

-Taison out

Aparrently not a favorite with women who could stand toe to toe with you and duke it out. Taison, stop dating women from your Muay Thai classes. It doesnt matter how cute they are, you dont cry in front of women who can knock out three of your teeth.

All I have to add is that You can remain honest with someone but refuse to give them hurtful information.

Jill comes up to Jack and asks "What did John say about me?"

You may know what John said and it might be hurtful to Jill.
You can still answer "I'm not able to tell you"
that way YOU don't hurt the person. You also don't tell a lie.

Sometimes the person, if they feel that youre holding out on information they want to know will bug you.
Just be firm and say "I'm not getting involved"

My 2$

Oh boy, NEVER even say something which lets a woman know you know something she doesn't and that she wants to know. they'll wear you down and leech it out of you!

Got fired once because I actually was naieve enough to report what the workers said about their jobs...

Honesty Joke...

A woman is checking out at the grocery store and notices a drunk standing at the ajoining checkout counter. She slides her quart of milk, loaf of bread and t-v dinners across the checkout, and the drunk comments... "Hey lady... you must be single."

Taken aback by the statement, she looks at what she's checking out and comments to the checkout clerk about how observant the guy was to be so drunk.

Again, he says "Hey lady... you're single aren't you?" As she walks by, she says "How'd you know I was single... was it the t-v dinners?"

"No..."said the drunk. "'Cause you're ugly"...

How you tell the truth is at least as important as telling it. Plus, be aware many people do not really want honesty unless what you say is also what they want to hear.