wrong place at wrong time

I went to a party in a tennis court (weird place but its the closest place to party at) and we were standing in a group when a guy walks by and says "[censored]" to a guy standing with us. the guy siad back "dont be a bitch" and the guy who called him a [censored] attacks him. it was going pretty even and everyone decided to let them be since nobody was hurt and they were just rolling around. but then this big guy who i later found out was 21 jumped in the fight and started helping the guy who said "[censored]" and they began kicking and stomping the kid while he was on the ground. i felt like i had to do something so without even thiking about it i jumped between them and end up punched above the eye but luckily more people followed my lead and started pulling them away whick resulted in more people getting injured including one guy having his face bashed on the concrete and blood splatter all over my pants and expencive swade timberland boots.

when it was over we found the kid who was being stomped knocked unconcious and bleeding everywhere. his friends helped him to the street where i am positive he was taken to the hospital.

when it was all over i wasnt sure if it was the best idea to just blindly jump in to break up the fight since i just ended up with a sore eye and blood stained shoes and a yelling at by my mom when i arrived home.

what would you have done? i personally felt as if i had to do something before this kid was brain damaged or killed.

I think you did the right thing, I would like to say I would have done the same, but damn ... poor shoes !

Even though you got yelled at, ruined some cloths, and are a little hurt... I think that you definittly did the right thing in trying to stop them.

I would have incouraged the person being called "censored" to just walk away from the party and that any altercation isn't worth it. Try to remember that if martial arts is used it should always be life or death situations. Anything else is uncivilized.

Its a tricky situation to advise on to be honest. If you stand back and do nothing and the guy gets seriously beaten, then you might feel the blood is also on your hands. On the other hand do you wade in possibly where your not wanted and take a pounding for something that wasn't anything to do with you in the first place.

Working as a Doorman it sometimes isn't always an option for me and I've broken up fights whilst working only to have the agression turned back on me. I've seen plenty of others take a smack for getting in the way too.

The other thing to consider is that you never know all the facts. Last year I hada a situation that I got involved with. A friend (well atleast someone I consider to be a friend) told me that his Dad (who was living with him at the time) had been beaten up by his neighbour and a friend in his living room. Then once his Dad had called the police and was pressing charges, the guy called with a machette and asked him to drop the charges. My friend asked if there was anything I could do about it. I found out who the guy was and it turned out to be a guy I know quite well through Doorwork. I had message put through to this guy saying the his next door neighbour was a friend of mine and that he'd drop the charges if the other guy stopped with the threats and hassle. When a friend passed on the message for me I found out that my mates Dad had gone round to this other guys house whilst drunk and threaten his girlfriend with a bottle... a fact his Dad had neglected to inform me of. Point being is I put myself in a situation that could easily have gone bad which didn't really have anything to do with me.

Unless I'm getting paid for it, I very really tend to get involved in anything that doesn't concern me now. The hard part is most MA's a decent people, who don't like to see others have bad things happen to them. And old saying is "Don't trouble trouble, till trouble troubles you!"

Gav

Two decisions: 'should I get involved', and when it became two to one 'how can I not get involved'? Both of them really being 'what is the right action'?

Do you feel that you did 'the right thing'? That is what matters.

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I went to a party in a tennis court (weird place but its the closest place to party at) and we were standing in a group when a guy walks by and says "[censored]" to a guy standing with us. the guy siad back "dont be a bitch" and the guy who called him a [censored] attacks him. it was going pretty even and everyone decided to let them be since nobody was hurt and they were just rolling around. but then this big guy who i later found out was 21 jumped in the fight and started helping the guy who said "[censored]" and they began kicking and stomping the kid while he was on the ground. i felt like i had to do something so without even thiking about it i jumped between them and end up punched above the eye but luckily more people followed my lead and started pulling them away whick resulted in more people getting injured including one guy having his face bashed on the concrete and blood splatter all over my pants and expencive swade timberland boots.

when it was over we found the kid who was being stomped knocked unconcious and bleeding everywhere. his friends helped him to the street where i am positive he was taken to the hospital.

when it was all over i wasnt sure if it was the best idea to just blindly jump in to break up the fight since i just ended up with a sore eye and blood stained shoes and a yelling at by my mom when i arrived home.

what would you have done? i personally felt as if i had to do something before this kid was brain damaged or killed.

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You did the right thing how bad would you feel if you did nothing and the kid was killed????????