Posted by: Ronin1966
At the party... LONG - 08/12/09 12:26 AM
It was a small "family" gathering, a 20's theme party actually. Everybody from the 86 yo mother to assorted aunts, uncles, friends, neighbors, their kids-toddlers, and cousins from far, far away. Almost everybody dressed in 20's clothing, and eating largely "period" food and drinks. 25-30 people at different points of the night. Starting in the late afternoon as the night went on the party gained more steam, and eventually got a second wind around midnight, a third around 2 am.
A fun theme party of different kinds we've done for several years now. Sometime after 3am something went horribly, terribly wrong.
The baby was asleep, as were her parents. The 86yo grandmother had been in bed for maybe an hour. The 5 teens had been behind closed doors for hours, but still not entirely asleep. A good, fun time.... until something imploded.
A long time family friend of my wife's, my brother in law's a 47 years old construction worker built like a bull (5'8 300 lbs of heavy muscle) DEMANDED to GO HOME RIGHT NOW. Less than two minutes before, I had him comfortably in front of the A/C unit happy, comfortable, ready to fall asleep.
As "host" of this party, we had pulled out all the blankets, sheets, mattresses, sofa beds and everybody though tightly packed everyone was ready to bed down, and sleep for a few hours before heading home.
All of a sudden there was dangerous yelling in the living room. I came down to see what the commotion was about. This family friend was in a drunken dangerous blind rage.
Two young female school teachers (late 20's), my brother in law, a cousin and his wife, the neighbor lady friend, and another lifetime frind of my wife and brother in law; the woman this man always came to every function with.... Christmas, Thanksgiving, Easter, Memorial Day Forth of July... anything and everything they were invited and always came! Close friends for 25 years at least.
This man in a serious blind drunken rage was demanding to be given the keys and to drive home RIGHT NOW. Demanding his lady friend who's SUV he came in...come with him IMMEDIATELY or he was going to HURT EVERYBODY, and beat us all up.
I only know this man from my brother in law, my wife, the lady... all of whom were not moving, and trying to communicate through his venom. All of us adults, wondering what had flicked his switch, feeling, knowing he was ready to explode. As proof, he asked my brother in law "...have you seen me like this before...will I do what I say...? I will hurt you all if I do not get what I want..."
All but four of us were laying in the various mattresses. They had all talked him into walking, refusing to give him any keys. Enraged he had walked away, and apparently returned his psychotic rage increased 10 fold.
He was very dangerous but not a threat... not until he acted and was not merely possessed and yelling. The stupid neighbor lady got pushed out of his way, attempting to push past him in the doorway in a "rightous" universe of her own. The woman, his friend was doing anything she could think of to get him outside the sliding doorway and away from the group.
Standing at 5' tall she got pushed into a couch too, unharmed but scared rightly so. His rage was legendary but unseen, unsurfaced in 20 years, not since he was very young. He was very able to do what he threatened, and had lost any control.
Eventually he stormed into the kitchen technically stole her keys, her SUV and eventually drove away with it. I took my sole cue(s) from my brother in law the man who knew him the best.
He was very clear, "...DO NOT TOUCH HIM... DO NOT APPROACH HIM." He hurt nobody, but truly scared us all.
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I ask my fellow martial artists, what does one do with/against a lifetime "family friend" in a psychotic drunken, rage?
Jeff
A fun theme party of different kinds we've done for several years now. Sometime after 3am something went horribly, terribly wrong.
The baby was asleep, as were her parents. The 86yo grandmother had been in bed for maybe an hour. The 5 teens had been behind closed doors for hours, but still not entirely asleep. A good, fun time.... until something imploded.
A long time family friend of my wife's, my brother in law's a 47 years old construction worker built like a bull (5'8 300 lbs of heavy muscle) DEMANDED to GO HOME RIGHT NOW. Less than two minutes before, I had him comfortably in front of the A/C unit happy, comfortable, ready to fall asleep.
As "host" of this party, we had pulled out all the blankets, sheets, mattresses, sofa beds and everybody though tightly packed everyone was ready to bed down, and sleep for a few hours before heading home.
All of a sudden there was dangerous yelling in the living room. I came down to see what the commotion was about. This family friend was in a drunken dangerous blind rage.
Two young female school teachers (late 20's), my brother in law, a cousin and his wife, the neighbor lady friend, and another lifetime frind of my wife and brother in law; the woman this man always came to every function with.... Christmas, Thanksgiving, Easter, Memorial Day Forth of July... anything and everything they were invited and always came! Close friends for 25 years at least.
This man in a serious blind drunken rage was demanding to be given the keys and to drive home RIGHT NOW. Demanding his lady friend who's SUV he came in...come with him IMMEDIATELY or he was going to HURT EVERYBODY, and beat us all up.
I only know this man from my brother in law, my wife, the lady... all of whom were not moving, and trying to communicate through his venom. All of us adults, wondering what had flicked his switch, feeling, knowing he was ready to explode. As proof, he asked my brother in law "...have you seen me like this before...will I do what I say...? I will hurt you all if I do not get what I want..."
All but four of us were laying in the various mattresses. They had all talked him into walking, refusing to give him any keys. Enraged he had walked away, and apparently returned his psychotic rage increased 10 fold.
He was very dangerous but not a threat... not until he acted and was not merely possessed and yelling. The stupid neighbor lady got pushed out of his way, attempting to push past him in the doorway in a "rightous" universe of her own. The woman, his friend was doing anything she could think of to get him outside the sliding doorway and away from the group.
Standing at 5' tall she got pushed into a couch too, unharmed but scared rightly so. His rage was legendary but unseen, unsurfaced in 20 years, not since he was very young. He was very able to do what he threatened, and had lost any control.
Eventually he stormed into the kitchen technically stole her keys, her SUV and eventually drove away with it. I took my sole cue(s) from my brother in law the man who knew him the best.
He was very clear, "...DO NOT TOUCH HIM... DO NOT APPROACH HIM." He hurt nobody, but truly scared us all.
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I ask my fellow martial artists, what does one do with/against a lifetime "family friend" in a psychotic drunken, rage?
Jeff